In
search of happiness and fulfillment, more and more people aspire to
change. Changing lives to live more serenely has become a common fantasy
shared by ordinary people. However, taking a 180 ° turn to accelerate
one’s life cannot be improvised overnight.
It
will take steps to finally hope to live the life you want, both personally and
professionally. So between the dream of a better life and the reality that
you live today, it’s up to you to transform your everyday life by simply doing
it. Also, to put all the chances on his side, the only watchword is
anticipation. Discover in this file how to anticipate, prepare and access
the change of life.
Step
1: take stock of his motivations
Once
you feel a need or desire to improve your life, the first thing you need to do
is take stock of your main sources of motivation. You must then take stock
of the different essential aspects of your life, namely health, money, work,
love, etc. The idea here is to become aware of the origin of your
dissatisfaction.
Understanding
where and how you have lost control of your life is essential so that you can
realize what new life you are aspiring to today. No matter what your age,
sentimental or professional situation, take a step back and decipher in your
own way this feeling of completely missing out on life. It is clear that
choosing to change one’s life, starting from scratch is the most difficult
decision for an individual.
Step
2: ask the right questions
To
achieve a new beginning and change of life, a moment of reflection is
needed. In spite of your determination and your will to improve your life,
it is necessary to make clear to you that the change is not easy, that it is
not without risk for you as for your entourage.
Also,
to test and boost your motivation, ask yourself how far you are willing to go
to change your life. You now have a concrete idea of the new life you
want to live in, but have you planned for a Plan B in the event that your move
is unsuccessful along the way? In the same way, what are the risks related
to this possible change, for you as well as for your loved ones?
Step
3: identify the obstacles to its evolution
By
going through this phase of reflection, you enter a phase of awareness,
essential to really trigger the click that will push you to act in your
change. If you are at a stage in your life where everything comes down to
dissatisfaction, you must identify all the internal and external factors that
are holding back your evolution.
Most
often, we reproach our entourage, our spouse, our professional
environment to prevent us from fully flourishing. However, it must be
understood that you are the first person responsible for your
situation. Look for the brakes you impose on yourself, such as the fear of
others’ judgment, the fear of failure, your inability to let go of your past,
your fear of the unknown …
Step
4: make a tailor-made action plan
Now
that you are beginning to understand why you have so much trouble moving
forward in your life, you need to craft an action plan based on your new
expectations in life. The goal here is to start from your real needs and
desires and to chart a path that can lead you to personal fulfillment.
In
other words, you must take actions that meet your new goals. It is clear
that your ultimate goal is to live happier and happier, but the
important thing is to make changes in the different aspects of your life in which
you feel the most dissatisfaction. Whether from the professional or
sentimental point of view, develop an approach allowing you to evolve in this
direction.
Step
5: Focus on your well-being
To achieve
your life-changing goal, you must focus on your well-being. Think
of everything you can, if not do, to feel better about yourself. Your
well-being begins first with your ability to take care of yourself. Feel
free to indulge yourself, essential to boost your motivation for change.
Changing
your life also means changing your mentality. You must change the way you
see the future, life in general. Do things for yourself and not to please
others, whether you are a loved one, your romantic partner, or your supervisor
at work. The bottom line is that you can feel good about your sneakers, no
matter what the situation or the difficulties you are going to face.
Step
6: Learn how to simplify life
To
improve your daily life, you must review your habits. It is actually by
changing your habits that you will be able to improve your life. The best
thing to do in this case is to learn how to simplify your life. Do not
look for perfection, because it is in simplicity, in small simple pleasures of
life that you will be able to find your happiness.
So
clean up your life, essential to detach you from all these superfluous things
that can alter your vision of happiness. Whether in terms of material
or relationship, do you say that some things you thought necessary until today
are more of a hindrance to your evolution than anything else? Just ask yourself
what you really need today to regain control of your life.
Step
7: Work to restore self-esteem
More
often than not, a person has a hard time finding happiness even though she
already has in her life everything she needs to be happy. The problem is
then in her self-esteem, a lack of confidence making her doubt her
skills and ability to lead the life she has always dreamed of. In other
words, to change your life you have to work to regain your self-esteem.
The
best way to do this is to make a list of his accomplishments in
life. Being a graduate, having started a family, holding a position of
responsibility in a company …, this exercise allows you to realize for yourself
what are your strengths, your real potentials in life.
Step
8: relativize the eyes of others and live with criticism
To
gain self-esteem and regain self-confidence, you must also live with
criticism. Self-criticism will be your best ally to succeed in your change
process. Take a tour of your failures and become aware of your own
mistakes. Only then can you grow and aspire to the evolution that you
covet so much.
Also,
learn to relativize the eyes of others. Do not focus on the judgment others may
have of you. Be your own judge, indispensable to enable you to make the
right decisions in your life. Concretely, you are the only master of your
well-being and your happiness. Accept criticism so that it is more
constructive than destructive.
Step
9: Face his fears
Once
you know where you are coming from and where you want to go, it will be easier
for you to face your fears. These are the last ones that prevent you from
evolving and moving forward. To change your life, you must understand that
you have to get out of your comfort zone, otherwise no change could occur
in your daily life.
Your
job prevents you from blossoming as an individual, so do not hesitate to take
the necessary steps to access a more fulfilling job. Dealing with your
fears is a crucial step in your change process, as it allows you to discover
your own limits. Knowing your limits then allows you to learn to overcome
yourself, a surpassing of oneself to the key of your fulfillment.
Step
10: Your failures, your source of learning
Finally, know
that to be happy, you will have to learn. Your main source of
learning will then be your failures. A love disappointment like the loss
of a job is so many failures that anyone can know at least once in their life.
Also,
check out your biggest defeats and take a step back from the possible mistakes
that led you to these failures. The important thing is that you keep in
mind that it is these failures that help to better understand your weaknesses
and thus help you to improve every day and that in the different aspects of your
life. To learn is to evolve, and only evolution guarantees you change.
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